tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-68702379977436488802024-02-07T22:21:02.993-08:00OHANA :)Malgalhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01618276260345642869noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6870237997743648880.post-74133614566233165242011-12-12T09:48:00.000-08:002011-12-12T09:51:44.301-08:00Step-It-Up<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">Step-families can be a royal pain. Let's face it: who really wants to live with a stranger who you hardly know? Who wants to live with someone who is "threatening" your family? This person could change your family traditions. They could potentially turn your parent against you. They might even have different techniques of discipline that you aren't used to. All-in-all...it's just a sticky situation. <i>But</i>, with some "<i>Goo Gone</i>", it is possible to make it the best situation for you and for your step-parent.</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">Think about this: how do you think the step-parent feels? They probably don't really know how to act. They've never been your parent before. They don't know what you're used to and what you're not. They want to make a good impression, but it's kind of hard when you're probably judging them on every front. </div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">So, how can we make the best of this situation? I believe the key ingredient is selfless sacrifice. Giving up our selfish wants and needs to make the transition that much easier. We watched a few videos for our class assignments this week that helped display this behavior. One step-family was decorating their Christmas tree. The step-mom was being a bit harsh toward the step-son because he wasn't used to their family traditions. Normally they would get a real tree. This year they purchased a fake tree without including him in the decision. Because of his reaction to the situation, the step-mom got upset--forgetting that it was his first Christmas with the family and that perhaps it was something he wasn't completely comfortable with yet. When she decided to change her view on the matter, it was much better for both her and the step-son because she was adjusting her needs to meet his and he was able to develop a better view because she apologized for not including him in their decision.</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br />
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</div>I feel like situations like the Christmas tree story from above has happened with my step-family before. Things like this are very difficult. A lot of times, people involved like to focus on how the past used to be. They tend to approach situations with a resentful attitude. If everyone involved is willing to take a breath of fresh air and look at both sides, the situation would be less messy and you'd see several smiles rather than frowns or furrowed eyebrows.<br />
Another thing to remember in these situations is that you can't expect things to change overnight. Things that are worth something take a lot of attention and effort--and a LOT of time. You cannot expect immediate results. I believe the text said it takes about two years to adjust at a comfortable level.<br />
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The thing that I learned the most from this week (as in last week since I'm posting this late. I'm really sorry Brother Williams!) is that having a step-family takes selflessness and sacrifice of our feelings and our natural wants and needs.Malgalhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01618276260345642869noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6870237997743648880.post-75191929515875291352011-12-03T20:52:00.000-08:002011-12-03T20:52:42.189-08:00Because I Said So<div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">This week was great! We learned about the different parenting styles that come with having children. I liked the parent assessment that allowed us to see what type of parent we would be. </span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">Four things we need to remember as parents:</span></div><br />
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</span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: #f9f6ed; color: #2f393a; line-height: 18px;">These are a few of the key points from the readings this week that I enjoyed. I enjoyed this week's lessons and discussions. These are things that I needed to hear as a single and even more so when I am married with my own family. I feel that so often, we get caught up in how "we like things to be" and don't take the time to ask others how they think things could be or should be done. I am very guilty of this, for which I am grateful that we had the discussions we did in class. I loved the diagram of the Prophet with the quorum of the twelve as well as his counselors and the discussion there. The scripture from Ephesians 4:12-13 - </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: #f9f6ed; color: #2f393a; line-height: 18px;">“But now hath God set the members every one of them in the body, as it hath pleased him. …</span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: #f9f6ed; color: #2f393a; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif; line-height: 18px;">But now are they many members, yet but one body. </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: #f9f6ed; color: #2f393a; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif; line-height: 18px;">And the eye cannot say unto the hand, I have no need of thee: nor again the head to the feet, I have no need of you. …</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: #f9f6ed; color: #2f393a; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif; line-height: 18px;">And whether one member suffer, all the members suffer with it; or one member be honoured, all the members rejoice with it” </span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: #f9f6ed; color: #2f393a; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif; line-height: 18px;">This is how it should be in the family unit - equal opportunity for all to help, give their input, and speak up where needs be. </span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: #f9f6ed; color: #2f393a; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif; line-height: 18px;"><br />
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</span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">This week helped me to reflect on ways that my family dealt with crises over the years. There are times when we are better equipped to handle a crisis and other times when it an be more difficult. I really enjoyed the stories that Brother Williams shared in class this week. The story about his son who was shot in the eye with an arrow was a great example of a way that we can respond calmly in an unexpected crisis. Think of the consequences that could have come if he had not responded in the manner that he did. </span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><br />
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<div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">"Life is full of difficulties, some</span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">minor and others of a more</span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">serious nature. There seems to</span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">be an unending supply of</span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">challenges for one and all. Our</span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">problem is that we often expect</span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">instantaneous solutions to such</span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">challenges, forgetting that</span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">frequently the heavenly virtue of</span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">patience is required.”</span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><br />
</span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">Family crises are a learning process for everyone. Just as Brother Williams told us the story of his parents when they were first married and experienced the loss of a child....they were much better prepared and able to deal with the next loss of a child years later. They are learning experiences that in hopes will bring us together as a family unit and help us to better understand how to deal with each crisis that we come across each time we experience one. </span></div>Malgalhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01618276260345642869noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6870237997743648880.post-85665666901871372042011-11-04T13:56:00.000-07:002011-11-04T13:56:29.489-07:00Friends, Facebook, and INfidelityI really enjoyed our discussions this week in class. I think we had to touch on a few touchy subjects, but they were things to help open our eyes and further our knowledge of the things taking place in the world today. Essentially these are issues that we <i>need</i> to be aware of to know what we will be facing when we reach certain stages of our marriage and parenthood.<br />
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For starters, I feel like a lot was gained from Brother Gardner's article. He touched on the causes of infidelity, what infidelity is, and how we can avoid it in certain aspects. I think my favorite story/insight that was shared, was the story about the woman who kept feeling an attachment to her best friend even though she was married. She made sure that she would run into him on campus and eventually came to the conclusion that what she was doing was wrong. I have a friend who I am so emotionally attached to that sometimes I feel like this could be a red flag in future relationships. I loved what she said: "I want to have the greenest, most beautiful grass is on the side of the fence where my husband is, and I will not let anything in to harm that." She recognized that her friendship with her best friend was on the verge of becoming an emotional affair. When we see the smallest signs, it is our duty to push any idea that might lead to this completely out of our minds.<br />
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<ul><li>"Thought is the father of an act." This means that the second we begin to think something, we immediately become more susceptible to committing that act than had we not had the thought at all.</li>
<li>Venting is something you do with heating and exhaust systems. You do not vent to someone or confide in someone even if you think you may never have any "feelings" for them.</li>
<li>Even pornography is considered infidelity. This is the most common form. We begin to categorize physical instead of emotional arousal. In my own personal opinion: I have done research on this particular subject. It is poisonous to a marriage, the individual committing the act, and anyone that person is emotionally attached to. Just over a week ago I found some disappointing information about a friend who has been viewing this material. I am very emotionally attached to this person and can attest to how it can poison all parties involved. It is mocking the temple that God has given us, it is offensive to the Spirit, it is offensive to your significant other. It is Satan's mockery of sexual feelings. In the long run, it will not bring any happiness to the table...only grief, sadness, loneliness, and doubt. I love this video from www.lds.org on Mormon Messages. <a href="http://lds.org/pages/mormon-messages-gallery?lang=eng#watch-your-step">http://lds.org/pages/mormon-messages-gallery?lang=eng#watch-your-step</a></li>
</ul><div>This video portrays the good and bad that can come from a person's choice to partake or push away from the viewing of pornography.</div><br />
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I hope that we can all take away the different things that we touched on in class and through our readings. I feel very strongly that these are things that Heavenly Father wants us to be aware of so that we can shudder at the thought of infidelity.<br />
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<div style="text-align: center;">This week in class, we had several different discussions on the role of male and female....and later in the week, we talked about homosexual relations. I'll be completely honest; the topics of discussion this week were a little on the frustrating/confusing side for me. I'll tell you why.....first I'll start off with our role as men and women in this world:</div><div style="text-align: center;">1. I had a hard time with our discussion in class about the roles of men and women. Our society puts such heavy emphasis on the fact that women didn't have rights for such a long time, so now we have to "prove" ourselves in a sense and make it known to the world that we can do this, that, and the other just like the men can. Brother Williams and I chatted after class about this particular subject. Is it so hard for the world to understand these roles. I believe the reason for this is that there is lack of complete truth in their lives. We have the gospel, but even then it is my belief that we tend to confuse our roles. I know that when Heavenly Father created me, He gave me certain qualities and traits that my brothers wouldn't have. I know when I am married, there will be certain things that I will be better at than my husband. I'll most likely be the one that stays home and takes care of the kids' school lunches, changing diapers, taking care of household responsibilities, and above all: nurturing. And this is okay with me, because I know when it comes to other certain things, my husband will be able to take care of the "rough and tumble" responsibilities. Is it wrong of me to say this? I don't think so. When we have a testimony of our <i>divine nature</i> and what our <i>role</i> is here, we won't have fight the facts. It is what it is. And what it is, is what God intended it to be.</div><div style="text-align: center;">2. The other thing I struggled with this week was the whole homosexual discussion. I didn't have a hard time with the things we discussed, but I had this deep sorrow for the people that turn down that path. What a difficult trial it must be to not understand yourself and have the constant question: "Was I born that way?" Many homosexual tendencies come from molestation and harsh judgments from their peers (especially growing up). Many homosexuals, "don't know" because they never "experimented". However, it is a natural tendency for the human mind to respond to such experimentation's. When you are <i>looking</i> for some sort of "arousal", you will most likely get it. I believe that a good percent (based entirely on opinion) of homosexual individuals are confused because the perceived things the wrong way. </div><div style="text-align: center;">-->The other part of this that frustrated me is that for every person who turns down that path, that is how many children that will not have the opportunity to come down to this earth. Satan is winning with each person who takes a step in that direction. Think of the many souls that will not receive their opportunity to come experience this beautiful life and grow and learn and have wonderful day-to-day experiences. We have to fight back.</div><div style="text-align: center;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: center;">I feel like I've rambled a bit here, but these are my honest opinions on the subjects we covered this week. I did walk away with a greater appreciation for my own individual divine nature this week, and also a greater understanding and compassion toward homosexual individuals. There is <i>much </i>to be learned.</div>Malgalhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01618276260345642869noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6870237997743648880.post-15787438826766070462011-10-08T21:23:00.000-07:002011-10-08T21:23:13.374-07:00My Big Fat Greek FamilyThe thing that I enjoyed learning the most about this week was the immigration article.<div>Let me start with a brief clip from a fantastic movie called <i>My Big Fat Greek Wedding</i>: <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bbwUIkkDMEM">Wedding Scene</a> </div><div>This scene displays the family's desire for the soon-to-be husband to cultivate himself to their traditions. They are very staunch in their beliefs because of their ethnic background so it is hard for the family to accept this "outsider". It is hard for the family to accept their daughter's choices...this is known as acculturation. Familism is when the family is involved deeply in the sense of the individual being inextricably rooted in the family. It encompasses attitudes, behaviors, and family structures. I really enjoyed learning about immigrant family systems and how it effects them over a period of time.</div>Malgalhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01618276260345642869noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6870237997743648880.post-80573387284766436952011-10-01T22:07:00.000-07:002011-10-01T22:07:28.467-07:00Why Do They Have a Barbed Wire Fence Around Their House??<div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">This week in Family Relations, we discussed the different theories/systems in a family.</span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">I really enjoyed it. I'm known for psychoanalyzing people from time to time, so it was fun for me to learn about the different family systems--what kind of boundaries they have, how to cope with different family situations, etc. Minuchin's model is probably my favorite because it explains things very simply in terms that we can understand. </span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">___________________________________________</span></b></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">A straight line is a rigid boundary, which means this family isn't very open to change and probably isn't very open to having visitors. Ever wonder why your neighbor has trees surrounding the front yard so you can't see in? Hmmm...</span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br />
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<div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">In my opinion, the clear boundary seems to be the healthiest. I don't think it is healthy for a family to keep everyone out and everything in, but it is also unhealthy to let information flow freely from one person to the next outside of the family. It is wise to set up guidelines within the family unit that help the family keep a healthy identity.</span></div>Malgalhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01618276260345642869noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6870237997743648880.post-37502121508224923242011-09-24T23:17:00.000-07:002011-09-24T23:17:06.712-07:00What I Learned This Week:This week in Family Relations, we were asked to focus on a few readings to prepare for future assignments in the class. I learned how a genogram works. One of our articles explained how to read a genogram and form one for when we eventually interview a family later this semester. It helped me to get a feel for what kind of questions I might ask as well when I am ready to interview them.<br />
It also talked about rigid boundaries, permeable or clear boundaries, and poor or overly permeable boundaries.<br />
Rigid boundaries are when a family isn't super open and "warm". They are very closed and it is common if their neighbors don't know much about their personal lives.<br />
Permeable or clear boundaries are a healthy degree and quality exchange of information takes place. They are open to those around them.<br />
Poor or overly permeable boundaries are when the boundaries are easily violated maybe due to lax rules and they are very open/overly-open and most likely unclear.<br />
We also discussed in class the pros and cons of research. I feel like the comments in class helped me to understand how to better approach the whole idea of research topics. The dangers of research is that we don't always have accurate numbers due to:<br />
How many people took the survey?<br />
How truthful were people when they took the survey?<br />
How accurate was the count? etc., etc., etc.<br />
I'm excited for the things we'll learn next week!Malgalhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01618276260345642869noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6870237997743648880.post-10040024154726463682011-09-23T12:45:00.000-07:002011-09-23T12:45:31.768-07:00Just a Little Snippet<div style="text-align: center;">It's another great day at BYU-Idaho!</div><div>My name is Malorie Autrey. As you can see, I attend Brigham Young University - Idaho. I love it up here. The atmosphere is amazing--which makes up for the lack of nice weather during the winter months. I am a Junior studying Marriage and Family Counseling. I can't wait to apply the things I am learning in my major. </div><div>I am just the average college student. I love to socialize and make new friends (which sometimes can get in the way of my studies), but I am trying hard to find a balance here. I love the outdoors--hiking, rafting, fishing, camping, etc. I enjoy writing--it is my way of getting my thoughts and feelings out onto paper. </div><div><br />
</div><div>I designed this blog originally for the purpose of posting thoughts online that people would be able to comment on, but for the next few months I will be using it for my Family Relations class instead. In this class we will be learning the importance of families in society, understanding ecological and systems theory (and how to apply them), recognize the impacts of social class--race, gender, cultural background, and family structure on family systems, examining the development of families, identifying the strengths and stresses of normal family functioning, understanding the current trends in marriage and family life, assuming responsibility for obtaining information pertinent to specific personal or professional situations, and evaluating existing personal knowledge about families (genograms). </div><div><br />
</div><div>I am excited about the insights I will experience in this class through my learning experience and I am grateful that I get to share them through this blog.</div>Malgalhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01618276260345642869noreply@blogger.com0